High performance is not presence.
The attorneys I work with know this because they are already listening to their intuition.
High performance is not presence.
The attorneys I work with know this because they are already listening to their intuition.
When Rick Rubin was asked if he ever faces the inner critic of what if other people don’t like his work, this is what he said:
“The audience comes last. I believe that. I’m not making it for them. I’m making it for me. And it turns out that when you make something truly for yourself you’re doing the best thing you possibly can for the audience. So much of why if you go to the movies so many big movies are just not good. It’s because they’re not being made by a person who cares about it. They’re being made by people who were trying to make something that they think someone else is gonna like. That’s not how art works. That’s something else. It’s not art. That’s commerce.”
Rick is offering great relational wisdom here.
I see it through the lens of art and commerce.
I also see this through the lens of relationship with self and relationship with others.
When a person stops choosing based on their own wants and needs and leans more into making choices based on their perception of what those around them want and need, they are no longer living from a place of presence.
They are living from a place of projection. This yields distortion, unmet needs, disconnection and disappointment.
This is about internal connection and honesty.
Rick speaks about it in the context of making art yet it is also relevant in relationships.
Disconnection with yourself blocks your capacity to be honest with yourself, your loved ones and your colleagues.
This can be masked yet at a certain point, it gets really lonely, sad and painful because no one around you is seeing you.
You start to feel like a ghost.
No one is seeing you because you are not showing up in your relationships.
You can no longer show up in your relationships because you are disconnected from yourself.
It’s tough to have a look at this yet when you know you need support, you just know.
Attorneys, this one is for you.
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